If your convictions create deep happiness in you, then I say: keep them. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can give you the choice of what you believe and what you let go. So many of our beliefs, concepts, agreements were fed to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is how our animators domesticated us in a “dream” of life. The only dream they had at our disposal was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc. However, if you really approach the heart of any chord and wonder if you`ve used it in your daily life, it`s possible that the answer is a big fluffy no. These chords were pushed into me for two years because the drama school I attended in New York is based on that. (Our head teacher even called us regularly on stage, one after the other, and asked us to list these chords in order. Seriously!) We have to break a lot of old agreements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to actually have a space for someone`s violation or anger on us, without judging, withdrawing, defending, accusing, intellectualizing, you share their dream.
I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the book author. For this reason, I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explained why he thinks the four agreements encourage people to behave recklessly and selfishly, I might have had an answer. As it stands, I support the idea that, Toltec or not, these principles are a healthy way of living and being consistent with the best practices supported by modern psychology: in life, in work, in relationships, even with these four agreements, all we can do is focus solely on, to do our best. Our best will be different every day, because our emotions and circumstances will vary every day. That`s why we don`t need to be so ourselves. Compassion, kindness and patience are indispensable. I dug into my memories to find out what the causes of this fear were. In my book of the law, what agreements could I make about these ideas, and how can I change my perception of reality to free myself from these fears? I know it was written a few years ago.
And I still have to take into account some of the author`s misunderstandings about wisdom in “The Four Accords.” Note that the beginning of the book on domestication and dreams is an important preface to understanding the power of new chords.